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Birth Doula Speed Dating

Choosing a doula is like speed dating for one of the most important days of your life (probably more important than your wedding day to be honest). This person is going to support you from early/active labor until typically one to two hours after your babe is born (sometimes even more).

ANNNNND they're also going to be looking at your lady bits and watching a human exit your body, so you best be comfortable as shit with them.

But no really there's some things you can do to prep for the interview with them! Here are some talking points I personally get a lot during interviews with potential clients!

Talking Points:

  1. What is Their Experience? When it comes to doula's, their experience is very much tied to their cost. The more expensive a doula is, the more experience or training they typically have (I personally am constantly attending trainings. I love learning). Make sure you have a budget in mind. In Southern California most doulas range from about $500-$3,000 and there are some fantastic doulas in all price ranges!

  2. Are They Certified? Many doulas decide not to certify as there are SO many organizations who certify doulas. If this is something that is important to you, make sure to ask them (I am personally certified through StillBirthday and DONA International #doublecertification).

  3. What Is Their Birth Philosophy? To be honest, I hate this question. Ha ha! The only reason I hate it personally, is because I call myself a chameleon and it throws a lot of people off and I get weird looks when I tell them that πŸ€·πŸΌβ€β™€οΈ But my goal is to adapt to what is needed at the time depending on my clients needs. I can be calm and comforting, or more directive if my client feels out of control (like during transition). If I see a need, I try and fill a need. But this question is so important to ask so that you're able to see/hear their views/beliefs. It also allows you to envision them supporting you during your birth and whether or not you like what you’re visualizing.

  4. If You Have Any Special Needs/Situation: Especially if you're having multiples. There's an entirely different vocabulary and set of expectations when it comes to a pregnancy with multiples. Make sure they're aware of your needs/situation and whether or not they are experienced/comfortable with it. If not, you know they're not the doula for you.

  5. Do You Feel Comfortable With Them? If you don't, choose some one else. You're comfortability is our priority. We want you to be as relaxed and stress free as possible. We need you to trust us and your body and if all you can think about is how your doula is making you feel uncomfortable, that is a MASSIVE red sign. How do you think your birth is going to go if you're just focusing on that? The chemistry between you and your doula is so very important. And in all honesty, it's probably the most important thing. Be open and honest from the beginning and it'll make everything go so much more smoothly.

  6. Do They Offer a Payment Plan? Some doulas (especially those who are on the higher end side) sometimes offer payment plans. This also allows for families to break down a larger sum over the course of a few months (depending on how far out from your estimated due date you are). Otherwise many, if not all doulas require full payment by 37/38 weeks before they go on call.

Your interview shouldn't really be longer than an hour (unless you both really click and are enjoying each others company). Most of the time though, you'll have a really good idea within the first 15 minutes whether or not you like them and can see yourself being supported by that particular doula at your birth.

It isn't a decision to take lightly so I hope this little bit of insight/talking points have helped! I know Pinterest has TONS of lists on everything baby related and everyone and their mom while they're pregnant becomes a Pinterest expert (this was totally ME πŸ™„πŸ˜‚). Some of the info is helpful, and some not so much.

Just remember, listen to your gut. You and your baby know who is supposed to attend the birth.

You got this.